10 More Questions

In May, I answered James Lipton's famous closing questions. Recently, I received a generous comment from Denise Fabian, and she posed 10 more questions. Here are my answers:

1. What pivotal event in your life changed you for the better?
When I was 25, my mom entered a mania. (Although she dutifully took medication, she went toxic on her lithium and was sans bi-polar medication for months.) My family--at that time--didn't speak openly about her illness and its impact on us all. But I chose that moment to have a heart-to-heart conversation with my dad. And that conversation led to weekly lunches, honest expression, and deeper understanding. My dad and I have a very special relationship--I treasure it more than I can put into words. I'm glad I reached out way back then. It scared me, but was one of the best decisions of my life.

2. What type of music do you most enjoy?
I like singer-songwriters. People with interesting voices sharing interesting stories. (Some of my favs: Patty Griffin, Dar Williams, David Francey, and The Wailin' Jennys.)

3. Spring or fall? 

I cannot choose. They are different, yet equally beautiful. Spring brings growth, shades of green, newness, warmth, and rebirth. Fall brings quiet, bright colors, harvest, coolness, and pre-hibernation. All very good things.

4. What is your favorite comfort food?

When I've had a tough day or am especially tired, my favorite cozy distraction is Stuc's pizza and a movie (curled up next to Mark).

5. What is your favorite creative activity?

Photography. It's my flow activity. When I shoot, I'm fully present and alive; I'm mindful. The act of taking photographs calms and centers me.

6. Looking back at your life, what era would you like to live over?

Even if I could go back, I don't want to. I am a collection of experiences and learning. With each year, I love myself more and I love life more. I wouldn't be who I am without the difficult--mistakes, unskillful actions, hurt, disappointment, pain. Right now I'm living life without regrets. There's no need for me to go back.

7. Barefoot or slippers?

I get cold very easily (even when it's 80 degrees outside). If I choose to be barefoot, I'm not cold. So barefoot!

8. How would you describe your home-decoration style?

Colorful, comfortable, warm, simple, welcoming, artful.

9. What evokes emotion in you?

Almost everything. I'm brought to tears by joy, relief, deep sharing, sadness, tragedy, and beauty. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I don't know how else to live.

10. What one thing do you want to accomplish before your life is over?

There is no one thing. I have a life menu of items I may or may not accomplish. Mostly, I don't want to accomplish before I die; I want to experience, feel, love, express, and live fully.