August 30, 2015

We All Struggle

We all struggle. We all experience pain, embarrassment, and loss. But fear isolates us. It whispers in our ear: this is a problem with only you. At times, I want to shout from the rooftops: "I feel sadness, fear, and doubt. I'm not always happy. If anyone out there feels this way too, you're not alone--you're never alone."

We all hide pieces of ourselves, but I want to make space for these in conversation--ample space. Embracing difficulty and darkness requires less energy than pretending it's not there. Shadows enhance the light. They show us truth, compassion, and gratitude. They make us whole.

Yes, we all struggle. In this way, we're deeply connected. As you read this, you're not alone--not alone in your joy, anxiety, grief, or contentment. We're in this complicated, beautiful world together. Our lives are intertwined. When you need it, please take my hand. 



  1. Thank you for this beautiful reminder Joy. We all struggle and everybody hurts. Right now I feel fear, joy and sadness at the same time. I'm halfway pregnant with a second child that we have struggled to get after Selma. I'm almost 42 and absolutely terrified. It feels like I just got back my life, made some huge changes and I'm investigating and exploring what is important to me and what I want and need. Right now everybody else thinks this is fantastic I feel mostly afraid. Sending big hugs and I hold your hand for a while : ) Agnes

    1. Agnes, thanks for sharing. I appreciate your honesty--it's refreshing and beautiful. I understand your complicated feelings, and it's important to honor them all. Yes, please take my hand. Let's sit for a while.