November 18, 2014

How Do You Want to be Remembered?

Before dad's heart surgery, we had interesting conversations about death. Funerals, obituaries, and end-of-life care. I knew dad would survive the surgery, but it was a prompt for honest discussion of death. Thought-provoking ideas for anyone, at any time.

One of the questions I asked him: after you die, how do you hope friends and family remember you? I like this question, for all of us. How do I want to be remembered? It's helpful to ponder and feel my answer; to articulate it in detail. Then compare this answer to how I'm living life right now. Are my daily actions aligned with how I hope to be remembered? If not, what changes can I make?

We all pretend death is far in the future. A future we hope never comes. Yet being curious about death allows us to fully live life; to live life according to what we most value; to live life true to ourselves.


  1. Any significance to the fact that you posted this on my birthday? :-)


    1. happy birthday, dad! may you live the rest of your long life making a positive difference in the lives of others. :) but, no, there wasn't significance to posting on your birthday. though you were on my mind after talking with you yesterday morning. hugs and love to you!

  2. I often think of how I will be remembered and it worries me a lot I will be forgotten. Wishing your dad belated happy birthday! Agnes

  3. I do ponder this question Joy and try to live my life true to myself. Happy birthday (late) to your father.